Monday, March 25, 2013

A family falling apart--part two.

Ajay looked happy,confident & at ease when he visited me after two weeks.He said that he had successfully united the family once more & they were more positively inclined towards him.

He sorted out his financial affairs by selling the pricier house & also his car.He had started fulfilling some of the demands of his family members.But he was unhappy because he had no job.He was planning to open a store in a new colony.He had got his son admitted in a diploma course of computer engineering on the basis of his tenth class marks,which were good.

After all this rush of good news,he had a confession to make.Sometime back he had helped a widow with her child's illness.But he did not want to dwell on this topic.I wondered silently if this was why his family had ostracized him;because they were all grown up,old enough to understand infidelity;if it was that,(the youngest was the son who had failed thrice in twelfth class).However he did not want me to connect this with the fissure in his family.Obviously he blurted this out because it was weighing heavily on his mind.I also did not press any further because i did not want to breach his comfort level.

He was an intelligent man & quite capable of righting the emotional & financial turmoil in his home(however i was going to be proved wrong in his next visit).His daughter's suicide and the ensuing legal battles,his only son's errant ways,his own joblessness & perhaps his guilt pangs;had all combined to push him into deep depression which obstructed constructive thinking.Opening his heart out in the first session had done him a lot of good & he had regained confidence in his ability to solve the disputes raging in his home.

I suggested that he should analyse when & why all these problems started,what was the cause & how he could prevent it from recurring again.I asked him how he had brought about the changes in his family's atmosphere & we had a discussion about what all needed to be done to give a fillip to the family's cohesion.

Congratulating him for all the progress made,i again expressed a desire to meet his wife but he was reluctant to do so.I asked him to come again after two weeks.

To be continued....

21 comments :

  1. As u rightly pointed out , opening ones woes to someone lightens the mind and paves the way for positivity

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  2. Hmmm! This is developing into a suspense thriller, Indu! :)

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  3. too much sorrow...
    good writing

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  4. Wow I am keen to know what will unfold.

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    1. Hi Rachna,glad you like it !
      Third part is coming soon.

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  5. hmm..now waiting for the third part :)

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  6. Indu ji

    Like everyone elseI too am waiting for the next part ----and yes it is becoming like a thriller --the case of the mysterious wife OR Ajai Babu ki patni ka raaz

    nice one Indu ji and made more interesting by your writing style

    thanks

    warm regards
    rajni

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    1. Haha you have renamed my post,but maybe it is the babu's raaj.
      I never knew i could write thrillers.Thanks for this compliment Rajni.
      Love n hugs!

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  7. Generally wives are very interested or a part of such sessions, isn't it? I mean they want to know what's happening.

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    1. Yes they would certainly want to know,but sadly,many people still think it a sign of weakness to seek counseling.

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  8. Interesting read. You have left us wondering and asking for more.

    A patient listening can do wonders to a troubles soul. Learned a lot from this post.

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    1. Yes,sometimes merely telling about our troubles also helps.
      Thank you Meenakshi!
      Love n hugs!

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  9. Indu, It is interesting how this person is going back and forth and you gaining depth on issues, perspectives on this case. I guess, half the battle is won when such patients start talking and seek counseling!!
    This is getting more n more interesting! Lovely narration...in fact, gripping narrative!

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  10. Yes Panchali,the decision to come out of the dark is paramount.Even then,if my questions cause discomfort,the client is likely to disappear.
    Thanks for your full-hearted appreciation!

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  11. Interesting. I thought it had ended with the first one.

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