Tuesday, October 25, 2016

Ten Tips For Coping With a # Crisis

We try to fashion a life which has order,progress,harmony and growth;but sometimes it takes a u-turn.A major disruption hits like a bolt from the blue.Critical ventures fail,gainfully employed people become jobless,a robust person is crippled,diseases diminish mind or body,relationships wither,or a dear kin departs.

The aftermath of such incidents is unsettling to say the least.We look frantically for a way to revert back to that earlier state of cheer and fitness,but some changes are irrevocable, and it is impossible to wind back the clock.All we can do is,find a way to minimise collateral damage and start anew.

Major upheavals entail drastic adjustments which are not easy to make.Is there any tool-kit to deal with such crises?The following may help:--
  • The very first requirement is to express your agony.Cry,shout,scream,vent your feelings,if that is what you feel like doing.Find a deserted place where you can be yourself.You will feel lighter after you have done this.
  • Now calm yourself.Don't panic.Say to yourself that this too shall pass,the pain will diminish and life will become easier.
  • Express your feelings to someone who understands you.If noone else,then consult a professional.Don't hesitate to ask for advice.
  • Don't dwell on what you have lost,it will aggravate your pain and prolong the status quo.If it comes to that,even the past must have had some elements which were not to your liking;and this turning point could even be beneficial in the long run.Silver lining,you know!
  • Check the instinct to react with rash behavior.Many people respond to a crisis by taking recourse to violence,self-harm or suicide.Avoid any kind of addiction-whether it be of food,drugs,or alcohol.  
  • Try to maintain your routine as far as possible.Eat well,sleep well.Stifle the urge to just hide under the covers,shutting out all else.
  • Hold on to the good things which still remain.If you have a loving family,savor its warmth.Go out,meet friends.Take up the activities which give you pleasure.
  • Look up,google those who have gone through a similar trauma,find out how they restructured their lives.
  • Plan out how you want to rebuild your life.Set small,attainable goals which will take you towards normalcy.Recount your own strengths and tap other resources which could help you to stand up again.
  • Remind yourself of the many blessings which you still enjoy in order to ward off depression.
Some crises definitely are very hard to adjust to,but if we do not accept the reality, modify our thinking and reset our goals,then life becomes a hopeless disarray of haunting memories  and toxic emotions.

On the other hand,when we strive to make a new beginning we become wiser and stronger,better able tolerate any kind of adversity in the future too.Bear with this egregious change because:-- 


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13 comments :

  1. As always, great tips Indu. Your posts are so inspiring.

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    1. Thank you Alka,you make me feel good :)

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  2. Those are really good tips, Indu. Difficult to do especially maintain your routine but I guess they are important.

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    1. Glad you like them Rachna.Yes it is difficult to maintain one's equilibrium in face of a crisis.That is why it helps to be prepared.

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  3. Helpful tips but liked the last two stanzas a lot, there are so many happenings is life and so many dimensions....you have covered all those.

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    1. Thanks for telling me what appealed to you Jyotirmoy.

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  4. My way has always been to keep off thinking about it till there comes a time when I can THINK about it and not just emote. THAT, though, applies when the crisis is not something that requires immediate action - in which case I concentrate on planning the action and do not spend time on "Why Me?" and "Why Now?"

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    1. Wonderful advice Suresh,that's why comments are important.

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  5. Great tips, Indu. For me, it might sounds funny, but a good sleep works well.

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