Success and happiness are inter-related.While success is an important ingredient of happiness ; happiness in turn facilitates success.But there is another factor which is a prior requirement for both of these to happen and that is emotional maturity,emotional fitness;or EQ.
EQ is the ability to understand one's own emotions & have control over them on one hand;and to recognize the emotions of others & be able to get along with them ,on the other.It determines to a large extent,how successful,happy or popular a person will be.We often come across people who are physically and mentally fit & have brilliant academic history;but they fail to realize their full potential.Success evades them and their relationships too,leave much to be desired.A deeper insight is likely to reveal that they lack EQ,which would have helped them to bond with people & make best use of available circumstances and resources.
Understanding our own emotionsEQ is the ability to understand one's own emotions & have control over them on one hand;and to recognize the emotions of others & be able to get along with them ,on the other.It determines to a large extent,how successful,happy or popular a person will be.We often come across people who are physically and mentally fit & have brilliant academic history;but they fail to realize their full potential.Success evades them and their relationships too,leave much to be desired.A deeper insight is likely to reveal that they lack EQ,which would have helped them to bond with people & make best use of available circumstances and resources.
A person having a high EQ knows his strengths & weaknesses very well.
He will channelize his energies in the direction in which his talents lie.
He has a clear idea of his goals,& the best way to achieve them.
His intentions & actions are streamlined.
He is confident of his abilities,& can take independent decisions.
Since he knows his shortcomings and does not have any false hang-ups,he does not hesitate to ask for help when necessary.
He has ample self-confidence & self-esteem.
He loves his surroundings & fellow beings.
That is why forming intimate relationships is easy for him.
Knowing his emotions is not all;he also has sufficient control over them:Come a ticklish situation,& he knows how to respond.
Anger,hatred & jealousy are kept safely in check.
Unexpected twists & turns do not fluster him because he has confidence in his ability to handle any situation.
He can adapt to unfavorable circumstance,& is quick to forgive those who rub him the wrong way.
If he commits a mistake he does not hesitate to say sorry & make amends.
He is equanimous in all situations & balanced in his reactions.
His behavior is consistent & predictable-no mood swings there!
Understanding others
He can easily decipher the emotions & intentions of other people.
He respects their views, but also knows how to convert them to his own line of thinking.
He is a powerful motivator.
When it comes to interactions with others;empathy & an ability to look at contentious issues from others' point of view is his forte.
He does not hold back praise & appreciation.
He can also handle their outbursts without acrimony.
He does not hold grudges-knows how to forgive.
Always ready with a helping hand.He is a strong support for anyone in trouble.
It wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that these skills bequeath a distinct advantage to a person in personal,social & professional areas.Other things being equal,a person with a high EQ has better chances of success & happiness than others.The upheavals of life sometimes make it difficult for us to remain in full control but a good EQ can definitely make it easier.
